Ramblings of a Newbie

It’s been a while since I’ve done a review…my life’s been going through a great many changes, mostly for the good, for a change. I’ll write about my life later on, though. Let’s get to the toy!!

One of the products I’ve asked to review is the Horse Bit Gag from Sextoy.com. I’d used one once in the past and enjoyed it; I didn’t get a good chance to examine it, however. This one I got to play with and dig into.

The design is extremely simple: two large rings on either end of a short length of rubber, leather straps also attached to the rings. Have your submissive/bottom/playpartner open their mouth, adjust the rubber length between their teeth and have them bite down to seat it properly. Buckle it while your sub has it between their teeth and it’s less likely to slip back too far when buckled.

It’s a sexy look, actually. There’s something about the oversized rings that makes it…I don’t know, exotic. The rings are super-shiny, the gag and straps more matte.  When I examined the straps I was pleased to find that they were actually riveted quite securely. These straps aren’t going to be under the same kinds of pulling and tugging as the straps on a pair of cuffs, but they’re just as sturdy.

The openings in the rings are very flush but aren’t soldered and I was a bit concerned that my long hair would get pinched. I actually tried to get my hair caught in one and I couldn’t do it. No worries there. The buckle is simple and easy to close securely and undo in a hurry if necessary.

A quick glimpse:

I like it quite a bit, actually. I have TMJ and was therefore a bit wary about using any kind of gag; a ballgag would be right out, I think. This one is comfortable for a period of time.

One caveat, and one that likely pertains to any type of gag that keeps the mouth open like this: Your mouth will water and there is likely to be drool. If your top is nice (or if they don’t notice *innocent whistle*) they’ll make it a tiny bit loose so you’ll be able to push the gag out and swallow occasionally. If your top likes drool…well, there you are.  As for the material, I’m not sure if it’s silicone or rubber. When in doubt, make it a one-person toy. The nice thing is it’s reasonably-priced enough that that’s not a problem.

CK and I haven’t really played much lately as life has gotten in the way, so when he started digging out toys last night it was a pleasant surprise. Earlier in the week I’d mentioned that I’d been watching a video of Mark Davis and Leah Jaye (no idea of the title, apologies) and had in the conversation described a few of the scenes. One of those had Mark putting a ball gag into Leah’s mouth and then making her count out each swat to the ass…I laughed when I mentioned how mean I thought that was.

Apparently that thought stuck, because CK broke out the bit gag and fastened it securely between my teeth. The gag doesn’t stop you from making noise, mind you, it merely stops you from enunciating properly. It also puts me into a very submissive headspace very quickly.  He buckled the strap and then bent me over the bed so I couldn’t see what else he was grabbing.

He started in on me first with his hands, spanking me hard enough that I was whimpering around the length of rubber in my mouth. The muffled cries just seemed to make him slap my ass faster and harder; then he grabbed the floggers. Now I have to admit, I don’t remember the order of the toys, but twice he made me count blows from one to twenty with this damn gag in my mouth. *grin*  He also made sure I was enunciating as properly as possible, for which I am surely going to get him back. The word “seventeen” is extremely hard to say when there’s something in your mouth. Try it. Seriously.

I had to finally signal him to remove it because something about the way it sat had started triggering my gag reflex. That’s not a fault of the product, mind you, it happens to me sometimes with other things too. Keep that in mind, people. It’s going to be hard for you to say a safeword while wearing this, so make sure you have some kind of non-verbal signals in place as well.

All in all, I liked this product immensely. It’s simple, it’s easy to deal with, and it’s affordable. I haven’t compared it to a ball gag and likely won’t try (I don’t want to irritate my jaw any more than I tend to now), but I’d be curious to see a comparison from someone that’s used both. Anybody?

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(Note for disclosure purposes: This product was provided free of charge for review purposes by Sextoy.com. I promise you that free product does not in any way ensure a good review; I have given products negative reviews in the past and will do so in the future if the product warrants it. )

The house I moved into has bamboo in the backyard. At first I thought it was a few stalks, about two feet worth, amongst some trees. Come to find out the trees _were_ bamboo. It’s still not a huge stand, but it’s far bigger than I expected.

Today I cut down about a nine-foot stalk (stalk? I guess?) and cut it into three more or less equal lengths.

Since cutting the canes and posting the picture on Twitpic, I’ve gotten kudos and similar advice from two people: @papatomla and @thepinkpoppet. @thepinkpoppet also provided me with an excellent link for information: http://www.cane-iac.com/artofcaning.asp .

As I get these trimmed and soaked and ready to use, I’ll post more about the experiments. *salute*

More later!

Part two of the contest!

So following the instructions, I made up a wishlist at Extreme Restraints. It may grow or change over the next little while; we’ll see.

Great company by the way, Extreme Restraints. I’ve made a few purchases from them in the past and have always been most satisfied. CK actually suggested them to me. Good stuff.

Wishlists are fun, actually. I like to look at lists people put together to see what they’re into and see where our interests cross. I already had one there and when I was looking it over I realized I’d already been given or purchased the majority of the items on it…so I had to go shopping again. Sad, isn’t it? *grin*

So have fun, check out the wishlist and see a little bit of how my brain works. And make sure to enter the contest yourself…the grand fucking prize is crazy. Every entry adds a prize to the package, meaning that the goodies just keep piling up… Good luck!

Here’s what you can win as the entries increase:

So it’s Bad Bad Girl’s anniversary soon, and she’s set up a contest for her lucky readers. Kinda cool, huh?

I actually happened across Bad Bad Girl on Fetlife before I found her blog; I was a real newbie then (still am, but a little less so) and was absolutely amazed at the gorgeous photos she’d posted. Since then I’ve read her blog, read her toy reviews, and have gotten a lot of enjoyment and knowledge from her.   BBG’s not scared to speak her mind, and she’s given some excellent recommendations. I’ve enjoyed her twitterstream too, but that’s another story.

I’m in the midst of moving right now, from the apartment I’ve been living in for a year back to the old family home. My father finally agreed to move into an assisted living facility…now, before you think this is a bad thing, it’s really not. He’s currently healthier, happier, and more alive than I’ve seen him in years. It’s a wonderful thing. The place is like a ritzy hotel; great food, gorgeous surroundings, and people to interact with.

Now, me moving back into the house is a good thing for me financially and comfort-wise. It’s paid for, so I’m only paying utilities. That’s amazingly helpful.  There’s a small yard, so I can perhaps start a garden next year.  It’s not a massive house, but it is bigger than my current place. It’s furnished, so I can get rid of my current hand-me-down and curbshopped furniture. There’s enough room between me and my neighbors that if I get…*ahem* a bit loud at times I won’t bother anyone.

On the downside: it’s likely to dredge up some old emotions. The house was not a happy place, and I’m determined to change that vibe. I’ve been talking about this on Twitter for about a month now…some of the plans are starting to work out.

I’m doing a good chunk of redecorating, starting with the main bathroom. Painting, changing out light fixtures and such; by the way, if any locals know of a decent electrician, please drop me a line.  One project at a time, though, because I know my track record. *grin*

I’m mostly packed at the apartment. Most of my current furniture is going to Goodwill (the bed, washer and dryer, and a few small tables are going to the house)…so it’s going to be a matter of moving mostly boxes. I’m hoping Thursday’s gonna be the day. Wooo!

In other news, there’s a little stand of bamboo or bamboo-like plant in the back yard of the house. My next kinky project is to figure out how to process it for canes. *grin* Any ideas, people?

As for the move, wish me luck. I hate moving. I like it once I’ve moved, but I hate moving.

Hey there, cats and kitties…life’s been crazy and hectic. I saw Vanilla Impaired post about this on Twitter today and thought I’d give it a go.

1. What’s your favourite way to have an orgasm?

Not sure if I have a favorite way, exactly. Position-wise, if I’m masturbating, I tend to be on my back or on one side. With a partner, on my back or doggie-style tend to be the easiest positions for me to get off. Woman-on-top simply doesn’t do it for me, orgasm-wise.

2. Do you use a sex toy? Hands? or both?

Sometimes just hands, sometimes both. I’ll start with just the hands, then move on to a sex toy when I’m good and worked up.
3. Do you have a favourite time of day or night that you like to pleasure yourself or have sex?

No particular time at all.

4. Do you feel you have different types of orgasms?

They can definitely vary in intensity; I haven’t yet had an orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation being part of the package.

5. Do you have a position or a technique that always guarantees an orgasm?

Once I’m aroused and my clit is good and swollen, a steady movement with a certain pressure will damn near always get me off.

6. Is having your clit directly stimulated pleasurable for you? What about after an orgasm?

It’s extremely pleasurable if done right. There has to be adequate lubrication and not too much pressure. After? I’m usually supersensitive. However, if I back off for about five-ten seconds then start again with a medium kind of buildup, I can generally come again…sometimes several times.

7. Do you masturbate/pleasure yourself?

I do indeed.

8. Has your self pleasuring repertoire/routine/technique changed or evolved over time?

Of course, as I discovered new things that aroused me and realized I could really take my time and let myself enjoy it.

9. Are sex toys part of your self pleasuring or with a partner? Or both?

Both. They can be great fun either way.

10. If you enjoy using sex toys how often do you upgrade your equipment?

Often, these days.

11. Whats the most intense orgasm you have ever had?

Hard to tell, really. My most intense orgasms tend to be with a partner, though not always. G-spot stimulation combined with clitoral stimulation will tend to do it for me…

12. How often do you orgasm? Daily, more than once a day, weekly, monthly….???

Preferably daily at least; lately not so much. My life’s been crazy-hectic (as mentioned above). I have to be in the right headspace to masturbate, and I have to feel sexy and good about myself (I know, that sounds odd). I’m also fighting off a nasty respiratory infection, which doesn’t help matters at all.

13. Do you regard orgasm to be a stress reliever?

Absolutely.

14. What happens to you after orgasm? Full of energy, a bit lala or ready to go to sleep?

This depends, actually. With a partner, I’m usually a bit lala for a few minutes, then ready to go again; alone, lala then sleepy.

15. Have you ever squirted?

Yup. Pretty freaking intense, actually.

16. Do you fantasize when you masturbate? Or do you just get right down to it?

Depends on how much time I have and my mindset. Sometimes it’s a case of ‘get it out of the way so I can think’ (yes, being orgasm-deprived rots mah brain), but sometimes it’s more of a ‘take my time and enjoy the ride’. When I’m enjoying the ride, I fantasize.

17. What do you like about having an orgasm? Is it important you have an orgasm every time?

It feels good. *shrug* Go figure…;) It also puts me in a very good place mentally and makes me feel good about myself. Is it important to come every time? Depends. Masturbating? Pretty much every time, yeah. During sex? Not necessarily. It’s nice, but sometimes it’s just not gonna happen.

So there you have it, people.

So I got tagged by the lovely Curvaceous Dee as a Sexy Blogger.

I take that as extremely high praise from that particular lady. She makes me want to go visit the other hemisphere.

The criteria for this award are as follows: I have to give it to four other bloggers, and I have to post five sexy things about myself.

The first one’s an easy one…the second one, harder for me. But I’ll give it the old college try.

1. My hair is pretty freakin sexy. It’s very long, straight, and silky soft. Very, very pettable.

2. I’m very sensitive and very responsive. Surprisingly so, apparently. I’ve been told the sounds I make are sexy.

3. I love giving oral. No, really, I love it. A lot. Like take-pride-in-it love it. I love getting it, too (a lot), don’t get me wrong…but there’s some kind of amazing sensual power-trip involved in giving good head.

4. I have a sometimes sadistic imagination. Some of you will find that sexy, some of you won’t. I personally think it’s damn sexy.

5. I have five gallons of Apfelwein fermenting in my living room. That’s fucking sexy right there.

As for choosing other bloggers to award…some of these already have been honored already, but my picks are my picks. *nods*

1. Curvaceous Dee. It’s her fault I’m blogging in the first place, and her fault I want to go visit a different country. Yes, I know she’s already been awarded, but she’s just that damn awesome.

2. Dangerous Lilly. She’s superhot and a gigantic geek. That’s so very sexy. *grin*

3. Mollena. She’s an amazing lady, and I admire her a great deal (not to mention finding her quite gorgeous and spankworthy. ).

4. Erotic Bohemian. Sexy, intelligent, and challenging. Many of my posts are due to her influence.

The toughest part of this was picking only four…there are so many bloggers out there that are smart and funny and so very worth reading. These lovely ladies are only the tip of the iceberg.