Vanilla Impaired’s orgasm meme

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Hey there, cats and kitties…life’s been crazy and hectic. I saw Vanilla Impaired post about this on Twitter today and thought I’d give it a go.

1. What’s your favourite way to have an orgasm?

Not sure if I have a favorite way, exactly. Position-wise, if I’m masturbating, I tend to be on my back or on one side. With a partner, on my back or doggie-style tend to be the easiest positions for me to get off. Woman-on-top simply doesn’t do it for me, orgasm-wise.

2. Do you use a sex toy? Hands? or both?

Sometimes just hands, sometimes both. I’ll start with just the hands, then move on to a sex toy when I’m good and worked up.
3. Do you have a favourite time of day or night that you like to pleasure yourself or have sex?

No particular time at all.

4. Do you feel you have different types of orgasms?

They can definitely vary in intensity; I haven’t yet had an orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation being part of the package.

5. Do you have a position or a technique that always guarantees an orgasm?

Once I’m aroused and my clit is good and swollen, a steady movement with a certain pressure will damn near always get me off.

6. Is having your clit directly stimulated pleasurable for you? What about after an orgasm?

It’s extremely pleasurable if done right. There has to be adequate lubrication and not too much pressure. After? I’m usually supersensitive. However, if I back off for about five-ten seconds then start again with a medium kind of buildup, I can generally come again…sometimes several times.

7. Do you masturbate/pleasure yourself?

I do indeed.

8. Has your self pleasuring repertoire/routine/technique changed or evolved over time?

Of course, as I discovered new things that aroused me and realized I could really take my time and let myself enjoy it.

9. Are sex toys part of your self pleasuring or with a partner? Or both?

Both. They can be great fun either way.

10. If you enjoy using sex toys how often do you upgrade your equipment?

Often, these days. ;)

11. Whats the most intense orgasm you have ever had?

Hard to tell, really. My most intense orgasms tend to be with a partner, though not always. G-spot stimulation combined with clitoral stimulation will tend to do it for me…

12. How often do you orgasm? Daily, more than once a day, weekly, monthly….???

Preferably daily at least; lately not so much. My life’s been crazy-hectic (as mentioned above). I have to be in the right headspace to masturbate, and I have to feel sexy and good about myself (I know, that sounds odd). I’m also fighting off a nasty respiratory infection, which doesn’t help matters at all.

13. Do you regard orgasm to be a stress reliever?

Absolutely.

14. What happens to you after orgasm? Full of energy, a bit lala or ready to go to sleep?

This depends, actually. With a partner, I’m usually a bit lala for a few minutes, then ready to go again; alone, lala then sleepy. ;)

15. Have you ever squirted?

Yup. Pretty freaking intense, actually.

16. Do you fantasize when you masturbate? Or do you just get right down to it?

Depends on how much time I have and my mindset. Sometimes it’s a case of ‘get it out of the way so I can think’ (yes, being orgasm-deprived rots mah brain), but sometimes it’s more of a ‘take my time and enjoy the ride’. When I’m enjoying the ride, I fantasize.

17. What do you like about having an orgasm? Is it important you have an orgasm every time?

It feels good. *shrug* Go figure…;) It also puts me in a very good place mentally and makes me feel good about myself. Is it important to come every time? Depends. Masturbating? Pretty much every time, yeah. :) During sex? Not necessarily. It’s nice, but sometimes it’s just not gonna happen.

So there you have it, people. :)

Sexy Bloggers! Woo!

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So I got tagged by the lovely Curvaceous Dee as a Sexy Blogger.

I take that as extremely high praise from that particular lady. She makes me want to go visit the other hemisphere. ;)

The criteria for this award are as follows: I have to give it to four other bloggers, and I have to post five sexy things about myself.

The first one’s an easy one…the second one, harder for me. But I’ll give it the old college try. ;)

1. My hair is pretty freakin sexy. It’s very long, straight, and silky soft. Very, very pettable.

2. I’m very sensitive and very responsive. Surprisingly so, apparently. I’ve been told the sounds I make are sexy.

3. I love giving oral. No, really, I love it. A lot. Like take-pride-in-it love it. I love getting it, too (a lot), don’t get me wrong…but there’s some kind of amazing sensual power-trip involved in giving good head.

4. I have a sometimes sadistic imagination. Some of you will find that sexy, some of you won’t. I personally think it’s damn sexy.

5. I have five gallons of Apfelwein fermenting in my living room. That’s fucking sexy right there. ;)

As for choosing other bloggers to award…some of these already have been honored already, but my picks are my picks. *nods*

1. Curvaceous Dee. It’s her fault I’m blogging in the first place, and her fault I want to go visit a different country. ;) Yes, I know she’s already been awarded, but she’s just that damn awesome.

2. Dangerous Lilly. She’s superhot and a gigantic geek. That’s so very sexy. *grin*

3. Mollena. She’s an amazing lady, and I admire her a great deal (not to mention finding her quite gorgeous and spankworthy. ;)).

4. Erotic Bohemian. Sexy, intelligent, and challenging. Many of my posts are due to her influence. :)

The toughest part of this was picking only four…there are so many bloggers out there that are smart and funny and so very worth reading. These lovely ladies are only the tip of the iceberg.

I’ve been slack..

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But it’s kind of been one of those…well, years, actually. I normally don’t go into a whole lot of real-life detail here, but there’s been a lot going on lately. For instance:

  • My job has been absolutely insane; with all due modesty, I’m an excellent employee and I feel like my job is constantly on the line. Walking on eggshells isn’t fun. There’s no real end in sight for this one unless I can find other work that will keep me in the manner to which I am accustomed (y’know, a place to live, a vehicle, and food for me and my cat).
  • My father is elderly, in poor health, and an alcoholic (Yes, that may be TMI for my readers. You guys are used to hearing about the fun parts of my life; this post I’m giving a little peek behind the facade). However, he’s just agreed to go into an assisted living facility…and actually seems excited about it. This is a wonderful, wonderful thing. I can do crazy things now like…y’know, turn off my phone for a few hours. Or go on a road trip for a day. I’m a wild woman, I am!
  • As readers of my blog know, I’ve recently gotten into a full-fledged relationship with CK. Now, this doesn’t sound like a huge thing, but it kind of is. I’m a big heaping bowl of trust issues and haven’t been in an actual official dating relationship for…hell, over ten years. Maybe fifteen? Some crazy number like that. The gist of this is that I’m learning how to be in a committed relationship again. So far so good, I think. ;) This particular item is a good thing, but it’s a new thing. I’m getting used to it. *grin* He’s even met my brother, and I don’t remember the last time I introduced a guy I was dating to my brother…

There are a bunch of other, smaller things going on, but these things are the main things on my mind. Some good, some bad, some in transition; and I wanted to share them with you. I’ve been neglecting you guys, and I need to get back on the ball. Writing (any writing, whether silliness, seriousness, DIY stuff, reviews) always mellows me out and makes me feel better about things, and this little mini-post is no exception.

More to come, people. I’ve not gone anywhere. *salute*

Been a while since my last HNT..

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This one starts with a quick story.

CK and I are doing some running around today, hitting the comic book shop and such (no, it wasn’t just him wanting to go. I’m a big ol geek too). One of our stops took us to one of those high-end strip malls.

This particular strip mall had an English tack and clothing shop, and I said “Hey! Let’s go in.”

CK said, “Why there?”. I’m not a clothing-shopper, y’see. I buy clothes because I have to, not from pleasure.

“I’ve been looking for a riding crop.” I replied, heading towards the store. He looks at me funny and said “I don’t think they’ll have one there.” I just kind of blinked at him for a moment and said “I bet they do.”

In his defense, from the outside of the shop it did look like a high-end clothing store, and if you didn’t happen to see the word ‘tack’, you might not think about riding gear being available there…

Long story short, I ended up picking up a riding crop there. Cheap.

There were more expensive ones there, but this one will do just as well…cheaper than I’d get from a website. Granted, it’s nowhere near as cute as one I’d get from a website, but sometimes cheap works.

At the suggestion of Pagankinktress, I took a quickie HNT shot with the new crop.

It’s grainy, but there’s something about it I like anyway…enjoy.

Four-lashed whip. Cat o fours?

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The nice and happy peeps at Sextoy.com have a great selection of BDSM and Fetish toys, and I’ve been having fun with ‘em.

One of the latest ones I’ve gotten has been the Four-lashed whip made by Strict Leather. It’s a heavy leather flogger with four braided tails, like so:

It’s got some weight to it. It’s actually quite comfortable in the hand, and the leather scent is very noticeable, which I consider a big plus. It was somewhat stiff when it first arrived but after handling and use it’s beginning to soften up and move quite nicely.

The braiding on the handle is good and tight. If I didn’t like this toy so much I’d consider taking it apart to see how it was done…but I really do like this flogger.

The ends of the falls are tipped with thick knots (I think they may be wall knots, but I’m not sure) with a few inches of fringe. The knots deliver a gorgeous thud, and the fringe stings. Using the length of the braided falls like a strap across a willing ass feels like a belt (according to CK, at least).

Those heavy knotted falls will leave bruises quite easily; this isn’t a toy for a beginner. Yes, I still consider myself a beginner, but I have a little bit of experience under my belt. ;) This shouldn’t be the first flogger a top picks up, but with a little practice it’s quite nice.

This flogger appeals to me on a lot of levels. It looks menacing, has a lovely scent, feels good both in the hand and on the back, and is a very decent price. I recommend it.

Thanks to Sextoy.com (home of an amazing selection of sex toys) for the chance to play with this lovely thing!

Pleasurists 23

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Editor’s Pick

  • Bebe by Beautiful Dreamer

    • Love Being Woman, once again, seems very friendly. Warm & welcoming. One of the things they set out to do was a create a vibrator designed by women that was beautiful AND functional. And they’d had enough with the tacky images and bad packaging. As someone who dissects every package with a little too much critique, I have to say I definitely appreciate their attention to detail.

    Editor’s Note: I try to pick posts which are not only well-written but also which are somehow unique or unusual and make me desire to own the toy being reviewed. This one definitely fits both of those criteria. Interesting information, gorgeous toy that I’d never seen before, and overall a wonderful review!

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Nipple Pump. Way Cool.

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While searching for cool new sex toys to review, I came across this guy:

It’s Dr Joel Kaplan’s Nipple Pump System 2 (though I’m not sure what happened to System 1). It’s one of the many women’s sex toys you can find on the site.

It’s pretty darn cool, actually. I’d never used one before, so I wasn’t really sure what to expect. I think I kind of expected a sort of suckling sort of thing, but that’s not what this puppy does.

My finger’s in there for scale. It’s actually no fun to use this on yer fingers, so don’t bother. :) The pump looks like something you’d use to fix a car with. It’s a great mad-scientist looking contraption, and I’m really digging it.

The only downside that I can see (and it’s a really little one, so hardly a downside) is that it came with no hints. Yes, yes, I know, it’s not rocket science. Apply to skin and squeeze the handle thingy. It really is that simple. The hints I would have wanted are things like: skin dry or moist? How much pressure is safe, and for how long? And yes, you can tell pretty exactly how much pressure is being applied:

After a question or two on Twitter, I got the idea that moist skin made for a better seal. Makes sense, really. As for the safety factor, I decided simply to play it by ear and not go hog-wild with it.

I tried it by myself first, and it was a touch awkward because you have to hold the bulbs against their intended targets while you squeeze the handle; now, once you create that seal with a single good pump you can let go of the bulbs. Two or three pumps will draw your nipples deep into the clear plastic cups and cause a tight pinching sensation. It’s nothing like the nasty squeeze of nipple clamps, but it’s still harsh. There’s a release valve at the bottom of the gauge that can either release the vacuum completely or let out a touch at a time to lighten the pressure. I had fun testing it by myself and noticed it really made my nipples insanely sensitive (and they’re already pretty damn sensitive!).

The real test of a toy is sometimes when you can get someone else to use it on you; that’s where CK came in. He’s always willing to oblige me in my playtesting…so altruistic. ;)

He went into my bedroom, grabbed several things from my toybox, and came back into the living room. My top quickly came off and after a moment or two of making sure my nipples were nice and moist (*grin*), he had me hold the bulbs to my nipples while he controlled the handle. One quick pump and I was able to let go, and then he started playing. Two or three quick pumps while I gasped and writhed, then using the valve to release a little pressure; then another quick squeeze or two. This went on for a few minutes, then I decided to try an experiment. There’s a little silver catch on the cups where the cup meets the tubing that looked like it was meant to slide in.

I slid the little catch in, and sure enough I was able to remove the tube and the bulb stayed on, and it was bizarrely hot-looking. However, that broke the vacuum and the other bulb released. I haven’t yet been able to get both bulbs to stay on at once; I think it’s a matter of coordinating it just right. I’ll continue to work on it.

Once CK found out how sensitive my nipples got after this treatment, he had a blast. The other items he pulled out were one of my evil sticks and both sets of clover clamps (his and mine). The clamps got applied readily and the evil stick used post-haste. Those things normally hurt quite a lot, and after the sensitizing influence of the pump it felt like fire on my nipples. Amazingly hot.

The boy grinned at this point and said, “I got an idea”. When he says this, it usually means that I’m going to end up in pain (the happy kind)…so I eyed him warily as he took off my pants. He placed one bulb of the nipple pump on my right nipple and made me hold it. The other one he pressed to my clit. A couple of pumps and I was loving it…I really can’t describe the sensation properly. It was a sucking-squeezing-tugging kind of thing, and it was excellent. And yes, it makes your clit just as sensitive as it makes your nipples.

This product right here? Get it. It’s an awesome playtoy. I like the look of it (very clinical; slightly intimidating), I love the feel of it, and I love that it’s an easy toy to use. I recommend it highly.

After my playtesting of it, I found that Alpine SubDreams had reviewed this product for Sextoy.com as well. Take a look!

Pleasurists 20!

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Pretty Little Nea.

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Have I ever mentioned how much I love LELO? And, further, how much I love the kind (and patient) people at Tabu Toys?

I got the gorgeous little Nea to review, and absolutely adore it. I got the black one with the exotic flower pattern, and it really does look artistic. You could leave this on a bedside table and it wouldn’t necessarily bring to mind ’sex toy’ if someone should happen to see it.

It has a subtle little curve to it, so when you’re holding it to press against your clit your thumb is in perfect position to work the two simple buttons.

One of these is the ‘more vibes’ button and the other is the ‘less vibes’ button. The vibrations are not rattle-y, if that makes sense. They’re quite smooth and pleasant, and stronger than you’d think for this pretty little thing.

Now, another fun fact: it’s not just steady vibrations that this thing delivers. Once you ramp all the way up to the highest setting, release the ‘up’ button. Then press again for three seconds and release…and it starts to pulse. Press again and the pulse increases in frequency. Another press, super fast pulsing. One more press and we’re at my favorite setting…an awesome sinewave-type pulse. Loooove this one.

The vibrations aren’t superstrong like the Hitachi (that thing’s a powerhouse), but Nea does quite well enough. It’s a wonderful tease for sensitive nipples as well as the more obvious girly bits. Sometimes it’s not quite enough to get me off, but the little darling is always an excellent tease. In conjunction with a penetration toy of some sort, she’s a dream. ;)

She’s rechargeable, too, did I mention that? Hours of use out of one charge. Well done.

I simply cannot recommend the Nea enough. Go get one from Tabutoys.com. You won’t be sorry.

Tantus Ripple…oh, man.

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The nice people at www.tabutoys.com were kind enough to let me try out the Tantus Ripple. I’ve said it before and I’ll continue to say it: Tantus rocks. I have yet to be disappointed by one of their products.

They’re all high-quality silicone, which means (yes, loyal readers, I’m gonna say it again. There may be new people reading this that haven’t heard it the many times I’ve said it before. Go get a soda. By the time you’re back, I’ll be done) that it is able to be sanitized. Boiling, a ten percent bleach solution, or top rack of the dishwasher (no soap! [radio]) will do it. Because it can be sanitized, it can be used vaginally and anally and can be shared. Don’t use yer nice slippery silicone lube with it, because it’ll be a bad scene. Water-based, baby!

*waits for regular readers to get back with their sodas* Ready? Good.

I got home one day to this lovely purple guy waiting at my doorstep for me, extremely glad none of my neighbors picked it up by accident…
Ripple

(shown with clothespin for scale. I know all you pervs have clothespins handy.)

It’s designed as an anal plug, though it can be used vaginally as well. I know this because, well, I used it vaginally first. I was a little intimidated by the size of it for anal use, to be honest. Vaginally…wow. I’m discovering that while I do like smooth toys, textures are amazingly fun. Because it tapers like it does, it slides in with ease; clenching around it as you pull it out means that you get to feel every single one of those ‘beads’ slipping out, one by one. It’s a pretty unique sensation, and I dig it.

Then…I realized I was simply gonna have to bite the bullet and use it in the manner for which it was intended. Out came the lube (do I really have to give the ‘lots of lube for anal play’ lecture? You guys should know that by now. Lots. Of. Lube.). I lubed that puppy up, stared it down, then added more lube. I decided the best way to really try this one out was to let it sit on its flared base and lower myself carefully onto it, so I did so. I also recruited the assistance of Mr Hitachi, who kindly distracted me from any possible discomfort.

First bead…not bad at all. I’d used the Peridise plugs, and the tip of the larger one is about the same size as the first bead of the Ripple.

Second bead…still doable. It’s designed to give you a small rest after each bead and not slip backwards.

Third bead…a challenge, but with enough lube anything can be accomplished! I paused after this one, wondering if I could actually take the rest.

Fourth bead…When this one slides home, you know it’s there. I had to work to insert this final bead, but it was worth it.

This toy is very interesting; between it and the Hitachi pressed lightly to my clit, the orgasm was insanely intense. Had I been less of a scaredy-cat, I would’ve grabbed one of my other Tantus toys and gone for a double penetration…but I figured the Hitachi was distraction enough. ;) Maybe for future experiments.

Now, for further experimentation, I strapped it into my harness (also supplied by the lovely people at Tabu Toys) during my playdate with my friend. It worked, and it was a lot of fun on both ends. I could feel the resistance of each bead as I thrust it slowly into him, and he reacted quite nicely to the sensation. I have to admit: the harness, while it fit, was a bit awkward. I found the angle of the dildo a bit odd. Keep in mind that I’m a quite large woman, so your mileage will likely vary. I have a feeling on a smaller woman (average build to small) this harness would work quite well. A little awkward for me, unfortunately. Nevertheless, it was still quite fun and I was able to work around the odd angles.

One final note: I absolutely love the quote on the product page: “Feel it go POP!” It made me giggle when I read it.

So yes: It’s the Tantus Ripple, the large one. To borrow from a commercial we all remember, it’s fun for a girl and a boy. Get your own at www.tabutoys.com!